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| Crossing The Line Of Fear |
By:
Dr. Jamie Fettig |
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Have you ever had fear stop you? Then this article is for you.
Oh, this is a great topic!
I remember when I was younger and in school, fear stopped me
from asking out a girl I wanted to date.
I didn't understand it then but I certainly do today.
Do you ever have any thoughts of fear that cause you to not to
move ahead with any of your dreams or goals?
Every human on earth at one time or another feels this "fear"
and reverts back into their "safety" or comfort zone. The system
was created to protect us in times of real danger but we must
learn when danger is real or caused by our imagination of what
may happen…again.
What ability causes one person to face and overcome possible
rejection at work, in school or in a relationship, vs. someone
who is paralyzed by the mere thought?
A man who goes after business like a tiger may be uncomfortable
with women and therefore not be able to approach a woman for
fear of rejection.
A woman who is miserable in a relationship may be petrified at
the thought of saying anything to her spouse in fear of the
potential discussion or backlash.
A child may not seek out other children to play with at school
in fear of rejection.
The list can go on and on, from fear of leaving your job, to
fear of hurting yourself if you try something new.
So, what is really going on, and how can we stop this once and
for all?
First and foremost, understand that fear is a very common
feeling and we all have one fear or another. The "feeling" of
fear is almost solely based on what we think may happen if we
try and fail. It is different than actually knowing that we will
hurt ourselves, if we fall 20 stories from a building.
Most fears are illusions we create in our own head, based on
past conditioning and not based on what is possible. As children
we are natural born risk takers and for the most part we are
fearless. The meaning we give an experience when we do not
achieve the result we want, determines how we "see" and "feel"
when a similar opportunity presents itself.
If we experience rejection more times than we care to, we tend
to mentally label the experience a negative one. Over time, this
becomes our belief, and our beliefs, as you already know,
becomes our reality.
What would happen if we changed the meaning of an experience we
didn't like?
What if we learned to label the experience a learning one or an
interesting one? Do you think your tolerance level would
increase for trying again?
I have learned that people who really succeed in various areas
of life often frame their experiences differently than those who
quickly label the experience as a negative one.
When we feel fear, we are playing a mental track that is not
conducive to growth. All growth comes from stretching oneself
past the comfort zone that limits us. Risk is a necessary part
of the reward. You cannot have one without the other.
Let me suggest that you start to label your experiences in a way
that serves you rather than limits you.
We have very few limits except the ones that we set on
ourselves. And those are mostly out of fear from the past. Do
not let your past control your present thinking. Step out and
grow. Step out of your comfort zone and be free again!
And remember...
Create a Great Day!
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